Harem Husbands, There is Hope

Covenant is a serious matter. I believe in covenants, because they remind us of the value of commitment. Without commitment, we would have no reason to believe anything anyone tells us.

An example of a covenant is marriage. I promise to her and she promises to me to be faithful and grow together with mutual goals as one in this life.

Another example of covenant is the covenant made to a denomination as a leader who promises to commit his or herself to that denomination and spend life together as one.

Now, let’s say that we make this promise to be faithful to one another as we are joined by a covenant. And on the honeymoon we find that our covenant partner is already married to something else.

We walk into the bedroom (metaphorically speaking) and there on the bed, spread out for all to see, is the covenant partner’s first love—Traditions!

This is not unlike getting married and finding your new bride’s other husband and children have joined you for the honeymoon.

So, you learn that she doesn’t actually have any interest in what you bring to the marriage. She married you because her family has outgrown her ability to care for it and she needs you to help baby-sit her 50-year-old kids.

So, do we stay married? Nope! Not in a real marriage.

Is a denominational covenant any different? Perhaps...but survival will require some new ground rules for realizing, appreciating, and using the gifts and abilities that the “Harem Husband” brings into the marriage. Unless this happens, the new husband will feel used and worthless.

Forever learning,
Johnny